SERIOUSLY MARJINA DILANDA MASALAH HATI....

Ow my God...
tahla aku nak cakap ape kan tp arini mmg ari yg bengang jgk la kan...
kena marah, sakit ati, cemburu, bengang...
adoi...
wahai hati sabarla...

jap lg balik bilik mesti marjina menangis kan...

MARJINA DILANDA RASA CEMBURU!!!!

duhai marjina...

entah mengapa hati ini resah dan helisah

tatkala membaca balasan demi balasan comment d pos2 mereka...

terbit rase cemburu di hati...

entah kenapa mekar cemburu ini dari hari ke hari...

tidak kuingin singkap lagi komen2 mereka di fesbuk...

tetapi tangan dan hati menggerak bisikan keinginan untuk kuketahui...

semakin ku lihat semakin hati ini resah gelisah...

seharusnya....

kutahu rasa ini adalah salah...

kerna dia bukan milikku dan dia bukan milik sesiapa lg...

cuma berbalas komen....

bagi segelintir manusia mungkin mengatakan aku ini berlebihan dalam perasaan...

mungkin hati ini sudah terpaut pada sidia....

sebab itu resah gelisah melihat kemesraan dia dan orang itu di  fesbuk

oh...

wahai hati janganlah begini...

janganlah terbitkan zina hati dan sifat mazmumah ke dalamku...

kerna masa ini tidak sesuai untukku berkomitmen dgn mu wahai cinta...

masa yang tinggal sisa ini hanyalah untuk berjuang sehabis mungkin menamatkankan pengajian ku dan tesisku...

hati ini juga tidak perlu ku sibukkan dengan perasaan yang masih bukan menjadi milikku...

kerna yang lebih berhak adalah hati ini ke arah pembersihan rohani dan menuju Yang Esa

Dialah yg berhak atas segalanya terhadap diriku...

tidak perlu ku lalaikan hati ke arah yang belum pasti...

lantas...

ku memujuk wahai diri ini dan hati ini...

jangan lah berprasangka dan berharap pada yang tidak pasti menjadi milikmu wahai marjina...

letakkan perasaanmu dan dirimu pada yang berhak pada waktu ini...

cintailah dirimu dan masa depanmu marjina...

binalah cita-citamu setinggi awan...

sibukkan dirimu dengan kerja-kerja dakwah ke jalan Nya...

sempitkan masa mu dengan membersih diri dan menbentuk jati ke arah yang lebih baik dan solehah...

tegarkan jiwa dengan prinsip cintamu hanya untuk insan yang bergelar suami...

tiada selain itu selepas Allah dan Rasul serta orang tua mu...

titipkanlah....

doa kehadrat Ilahi di lewat2 malammu dan di dalam tahajjud mu marjina....

Dia yang Maha Mendengar keluhan hatimu bisa menenangkanmu tiada taranya...

Dia yang memberi rasa ini dan Dia juga yang menenangkanmu marjina...

Usah mencari dan berharap si Soleh andai dirimu belum cukup Solehah....

Berdoa dan berusahalah menjadi solehah andai tidak dapat setaraf Siti Khadijah...

Kerna masa mu belum tiba mungkin sidia yang ditentu Allah sedang mensolehkan diri untuk bertemu denganmu wahai marjina....

sabarlah wahai hati mu marjina...

IMMEDIATELY BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE LEVEL....

1. Know your worth.

In order to achieve anything in life, it is important that you know your self worth. So maintain an awareness of all that you do for the world. Take a minute each day to remind yourself – or write down – what you’ve accomplished at work, in your love life, in social settings, at your office, with your finances, and so on. Realize what you are capable of doing and you will feel stronger and have more self-confidence.

2. Dump the past.

Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Whatever has happened previously has gone forever. Today you can dump the past and start afresh. You can shape whatever happens from now on and create a new, confident you. Forget the past and begin taking action to build a brighter future. And just because things have been a certain way till now, it doesn’t mean they always have to be this way. You can change, you can be confident. It’s up to you.

3. Drop self-deprecation.

Let go of self-limiting thoughts and behaviors. If you repeatedly put yourself down it will knock confidence right out of you. Criticizing your looks, your body shape, your hair, your abilities and your personality is harmful. If you do this everyday, confidence will be non-existent. You wouldn’t think this is a decent way to treat others so make it totally unacceptable for you to treat yourself this way. Be kind to yourself, respect yourself and never ever beat yourself up.

4. Take responsibility.

You can’t choose your family, and you can rarely change people. But you have 100% control of how you react to them. The greatest stress in life is to hold someone else accountable for something they can’t control. The only person you control is you. Once you begin to appreciate how big an impact you can have on your relationships, you’ll feel – and be – so much more powerful.

5. Decide what you want for your future.

Stake your claim. Having a goal or vision will give your life direction, purpose, and passion. And the process of setting a goal, looking forward to it and then accomplishing it, is very fulfilling and a huge boost to your self-confidence. After you’ve dropped those 15 pounds or finally paid off the loan, reward yourself and note the satisfaction of having achieved exactly what you set out to do.

6. Just do it.

The future belongs to the risk takers, not the security seekers. Everything you want is out there – you just have to take action, do stuff, to get it. So whether you want to change career, gain a new skill or buy a gorgeous pair of posh shoes, take a step towards achieving it today. With each step – big or small – you’ll grow stronger and more confident. Taking action always, always raises self-esteem and self-belief. Both of these are necessary to be confident. One of the coolest things about confidence is that once you gain it in one part of your life – it has a lovely tendency of boosting it in others.

7. Accept failure.

Accepting that you will sometimes fail is key to maintaining a high self-confidence. If you do your best and still don’t win, at least you can be satisfied that you’ve tried. If you don’t view failure as a part of life, the smallest derailment can be shattering to your ego. Take risks and learn to fall short; this will teach you at least as much as, if not more than, unfaltering success will.

8. Frequently remind yourself of all of the good things you have done.

If you keep reminding yourself of all the mistakes you’ve made, your confidence levels will remain grounded. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Reminding yourself of the good things you have done builds self-esteem. Why beat yourself up when you can praise yourself instead?
Keep in mind what Anthony Robbins said: “If you’ve ever done anything successfully, you can do it again. Imagine and feel certain now about the emotions you deserve to have instead of waiting for them to spontaneously appear someday in the far distant future.”

9. Create scenes in your mind of happiness, health, and success.

Fill in the details with sounds, colors, and scents. Pull up these images whenever you need a boost. By providing positive pictures and self-suggestion, visualization can change emotions that subsequently have a physical effect on the body.

10. Look forward to something.

Plan a vacation, getaway weekend, or fun day trip. When stress strikes, recall the event you’ve planned for the near future. Everything seems a little bit easier when you have a trip planned. You’re willing to work more hours and tolerate the little things that usually make you crazy.

11. Learn a new trade or craft.

Learn to do something new. You’ll reassure yourself that, with some thought and preparation, you can tackle the unexpected. You’ll also build your knowledge base and gain self-confidence by being able to adapt your knowledge to new tasks. Take an economics class or learn about a remote geographic location in a book. Better yet, do it hands-on: have your mechanic friend come over and show you how to do some preventative car maintenance.

12. Work on your small talk.

Some of us really struggle in social situations such as a conference because they feel they lack the confidence to engage in small talk with people they do not know. They constantly avoid these situations and therefore their confidence does not improve – and nor does their circle of friends. So if you get invited somewhere, make sure you go! The more social situations you get in, the more comfortable you’ll feel making small talk to people you’ve only just met.

13. Learn from the experts.

Unless you’re one of those fortunate people who were told from a very young age that they could be and do anything, your self-confidence is probably something that needs to be – and can be – worked on. So why not learn from those who walk their talk? Buy a book of affirmations and carry it with you. Read it throughout the day to lift your spirits and instill confidence.

14. Arm yourself with the facts.

The more you examine a subject, the more confident you’ll feel discussing it. If you’re nervous talking to your parents or partner about an issue that’s worrying you, then do a little bit of research before bringing it up with them. Just having the information in your own mind will make you feel more confident.

15. Breaking up big goals or tasks into smaller chunks.

If you have been set a task that seems impossible, take it apart and even drill it down to hourly steps. Small progresses eventually do add up to the greater progresses. And as you achieve each step your confidence will grow and you will also achieve a sense of mastery over the issue.

16. Mix with positive people.

Make it a point to socialize with people that are able to put you in the limelight during conversations. Negative people erode confidence like rust upon metal. Who you spend your time with influences how you are. It can be hard to drop negative people but be strong and find a better quality of company. The more time you spend with confident people the more confident you’ll become. Confidence breeds confidence.

17. Be aware of what you allow your mind to be exposed to.

From television to magazines to the Internet, the media is everywhere impacting our daily lives on a subconscious level. It continually bombard you with image manipulation and tales of corruption, wars, crime, disasters and impending doom. This can give you a negative perspective on life. Reduce the amount of TV you watch and do something more beneficial instead. Read a book, workout, learn a new skill – whatever you want. This will replace a negative stream with a positive one, and will boost your confidence.

18. Be philosophical.

This means that if things don’t quite go the way you planned, you can put events into perspective and you won’t let the experience knock your confidence. For example, if you don’t get that job you wanted so much, then why not think about what else is round the corner, rather than ruminating too much on why you failed?

19. Socialize with everyone.

The bank teller, the bus driver, your doctor’s secretary; it is beneficial to strike up a conversation with anyone who crosses your path. Sharpen your social skills and this will make you more sociable and confident with people, especially strangers. As a result, you won’t feel threatened or insecure in unfamiliar situations.

20. Look good.

If you look good, you feel good! If you feel good, you look good! But for those whose self-confidence has reached an all-time low, ceasing to care about their appearance might be a final sign that it’s time to change. How you look is how the world sees you, so don’t neglect your appearance. If you can take pride in looking good when you leave the house, it will do wonders for your self-confidence – when you know you look good, others notice. So do things right and walk with your back straight.

21. Be active.

Keep in mind that staying physically fit is as important as staying mentally sane. A lot of us need to workout in order to maintain a positive self-image; others, to fend off hereditary heart disease. But everyone, without exception, feels better and has more self-confidence when they’re in shape. The endorphins that are released during exercise will lift your spirits during your workout and, in the long-term, help you feel capable to accomplish your goals.

22. Be well-rounded.

Maintain interest and skill in all aspects of your life. In other words, don’t neglect your model-building hobby, your public-speaking voice or your lawn-maintenance schedule. Meanwhile, don’t let your job absorb all of your free time, and make sure your new partner doesn’t keep you away from your other passions. To maintain a maximized level of self-confidence, you want all of your personal qualities to be exercised as often as possible.

MARJINA RASE LOOSE OF CONFIDENT LEVEL AHH....

lately marjina feeling very uncomfortable with herself...
major of it is low of confident level...
so, to boost it up, i give marjina ten ways to improve marjina's confident level....

1. Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.

This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row
In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

HOMESICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

huhu....marjina memang homesick skrang.....

nak balik tp byk keje nak disetlekan....

nak balik tp poket macam xramai je....huhu

nak balik nak borak ngan mak n ayah....

nak balik sbb nk tengok buah hati....

nak balik sbb da lame xtengok pantai...kt sini xde pantai...

nak balik sbb da lame xgado dgn adik...

nak balik nak jumpe wan n aki...

NAK BALIKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RINDU...............

Biler marjina ingin bermadah tentang rindu yang datang dalam dirinya....

hihi....puitisnye saye...tidaklah...saje je...actually im missing my besh fwen ZU...mesti korang pelik nape la nk rindu sgt kan...kwn baek je pon...bukan suami ke adik beradik ke ape ke kan...tp tula,,,aku sudah mula hilang sesuatu jgk biler zu xde...mksudnye takde disini ialah dia pergi berjuang bukan la meninggalkan aku selamanya cuma 9 bulan je...tp bg aku lame kot 9 bulan tu...semoga ko tabah ye kat training tu...aku dah dapat alamat ko,,,nanti tiap2 bulan insyaallah aku pos kan surat untuk ko...

SEMOGA SELEPAS 9 BULAN NANTI KITE BERTEMU DALAM KEADAAN YG BERBEDA YE ZU!!!

i mish you!!!

HAKIKAT SEBUAH PERNIKAHAN....

Ada banyak alasan manusia yang membuat dasar dari hakikat pernikahan. Hakikat yang seperti apakah yang paling membahagiakan? Cuba kita lihat dan manakah pilihan kita???

1- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah kerana NAFSU, maka pasangan rajin bertengkar jika servis di kamar tidur tidak memuaskan.

2- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah kerana HARTA, maka pasangan bakal bubar jika bangkrup.

3- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah kerana KECANTIKAN, pasangan bakal lari jika rambut mula beruban dan muka keripot atau badan jadi gendut.

4- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah kerana ZURIAT, maka pasangan akan cari alasan untuk pergi jika pasangan tidak dapat memberi anak.

5- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah keranaKEPERIBADIAN, pasangan akan lari jika orang berubah tingkah-lakunya

6- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah kerana CINTA, hati manusia itu tidak tetap dan mudah terpikat pada hal-hal yang lebih baik, lagi pula manusia. Yang dicintai pasti MATI / PERGI.

7- Jika hakikat pernikahan adalah kerana IBADAH kepada ALLAH, sesungguhnya ALLAH itu KEKAL dan MAHA PEMBERI HIDUP kepada makhlukNYA. Dan ALLAH mencintai hambaNYA melebihi seorang ibu mencintai bayinya. Maka tak ada alasan apapun didunia yang dapat meretakkan rumah tangga kecuali jika pasangan mendurhakai ALLAH.

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